Mommy Matters Monday: Maintaining Friendships

Happy Monday!

It’s been a busy few weeks and I haven’t been keeping up with the blog as much as I should but back to the grind this week.

I want to share a devotion from a book written by the founder of my direct service company, Joan Horner. Her devotion book called “Keeping It Personal” was written for Premier Designs Jewelers as a way for us to spend a few quiet moments with the Lord each day reflecting on where our heart was in our relationships, our families, and our businesses.

Here’s what she wrote for August 8th:

Golden Friendship
“The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.” Proverbs 27:9
Through the years God has gifted me with wonderful friends. I have sweet friends by the hundreds across this nation and in many other countries as well.
New friends are special, and it is always exciting for me to make new relationships. However, our long-lasting friendships stick together like glue.
When business circumstances or relocations occur to separate friends, it is one of the most difficult things to live with. True friendships, though, last through those challenges. I am blessed with so many “old” friends who remain involved in my life. As the old rhyme says: Make new friends, But keep the old. One is sliver, And the other gold.
I have silver & I have gold! What a priceless treasure.
Keeping It Personal: Who are the “silver” and “gold” friends in my life?

I’ve really be reflecting on this devotion since last week because I’ve been blessed with a lot of amazing friends in my life. I met most of my close friends in college and we’ve all spread out since then. With the convenience of social media and the internet, it’s been so easy to keep up with the goings on of everyone.

But I’ve realized that since becoming a mommy, it takes a little extra effort on my part to maintain those friendships. Only a couple of my friends (outside of work friends) have kids and understand how difficult it can be to schedule time to spend together with or without kiddos. I can’t be a part of the impromptu plans that seem to occur a day or two in advance of whatever event/hangout/dinner that’s in question. My husband works while I’m a home with Aymen Grace, I work a few nights while he’s at home with Aymen Grace and we cherish our weekends when we both get to be with her (and with each other). And when we plan time to spend with friends and Aymen is with us, well, there’s nap time & nursing to plan around.

It’s hard to have to cut back on friend time and sometimes, when I see some of them together, it hurts. But I’m a mommy now and I have a new normal. And my new normal is AWESOME! My daughter has so many loving & caring “aunties” that ask about her, cheer on her progress, and even babysit sometimes!! The love her just for the fact that she’s my daughter. I’m so blessed!!

My friends are amazing. They are beautiful women who come from a variety of backgrounds and have a variety of personalities but each and every one of them are a blessing to me.

Some amazing friends at my wedding!

So tell me, did you find it difficult when you first had kids to maintain your friendships?

If you are a young parent, do a lot of your friends have kids too?

Have you sought out new mommy friends? If so, where did you find them?

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3 Comments

Jen B

First of all congrats on winning the giveaway! You are on a roll! Second of all- yes maintaining friendships with children is difficult. You just don’t have the same disposable time that you used to. Most of my “social” time comes from playdates. So now my closet friends are probably those that have kids around my kids age and it is easy for us to talk while the kids play. Phone calls are almost impossible now with a toddler who wants to “talk” on the phone (and constantly screams such) whenever I have it out. It certainly is a “new normal”

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Angela

I moved away from home a year after college so four years later when I had my first daughter I was already use to stsying in touch through social media. But I have made new mommy friends through work. I found you at the momma meandering Monday link up. Following GFC now.
Angela @ Time with A & N

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Brittnei Washington

This is such a great devotional. 2 months after my son was born me, hubby and baby actually moved 2000 miles away from everything we knew because hubby had a job offer somewhere else. It has been difficult this past year to meet new people. The 2 women I started to get to know have moved away so I’m hoping through blogging I will continue to make new friends. We plan to move to Texas at some point (we’re in Arizona now) and I believe once there, I will meet some new like-minded women. There is a church that we love and plan to join once we get there. Thanks for linking up to Meandering Mondays 🙂 Following you now on Social Media! 🙂

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