I sat down to write today’s post on a completely different topic (which I’ll post about next week) but I really want to explore this idea that things have to be perfect in our lives, families, on our Facebook page.
I’m really tired of feeling inadequate as a mother. I’m tired of everyone (ok, not everyone but it sure feels like it) telling me that they’re baby crawled, walked, talked, graduated college with a PhD earlier than my baby did. I’m tired of the looks I get when I tell them that I’m still breastfeeding Baby A. I’m tired of feeling like what I’m doing (and I’m doing the absolute BEST THAT I CAN) is not okay.
We live in a world where people feel like they have to constantly tell us things to help us out. So bear with me and let me take today’s post to tell you some things, momma.
I want to tell you, momma, that’s IT’S OKAY if you’re baby doesn’t have teeth and isn’t crawling at 6 months! IT’S OKAY if your 10 month old is still nursing frequently during the day! IT’S OKAY if you stay at home with your kids and don’t have a 9-5 job! IT’S OKAY, IT’S OKAY, IT’S OKAY!
Actually, it’s more than just okay. If you know you’re doing the best you can for your family then it’s GREAT. It’s GRAND. Heck, it’s FANTASTIC, PHENOMENAL, MIND-BLOWING! And you deserve to be praised!
You see, in our culture, we have this obsessive need to have the perfect life. The perfect house, the perfect spouse, the perfect children. But guess what?? Nothing on this earth is perfect. And there is great freedom when we fully accept this.
Once we realize that we will NEVER be perfect, we are free from comparison, we are free from feeling inadequate when others judge us (and they will judge us), but most of all we can be free from mommy guilt!!
HALLELUJAH! Take a breather, release that tension, pat yourself on the back for a job well done.
You see, momma, no one has all the answers and no one knows your babies better than you do. So do what you can. Pray for God’s guidance everyday because He sacrificed his son to come to this Earth as the ONLY perfection. Christ died for us so that we can experience that sweet freedom. Freedom from sin, freedom from disappointment, and freedom from regret.
Use his unconditional love as an example but don’t beat yourself up when you fall short. Treat yourself to a little bit of the heavenly grace we were given over 2000 years ago.
So tell me, what will you be freeing yourself from this week?